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Sexual Confidence - How to feel confident in the bedroom.
We all know some people appear to be built with a natural confidence. Whether this is something
which has been encourage and remains from childhood or a confidence we grow as we get older.
However feeling a lack of confidence in your intimate partnership can cause tension in your personal
relationship. You can end up pushing the one person you can trust and can feel at your most fearless
with away. Women tend to need more encouragement with sex were as men don’t seem to have the
same scale of self-esteem problems in other words not all but most men only seem to care about
There can be so many reasons why you or your partner feel like this. You may have been bullied as a
child, and have a feeling of low self-esteem issues. The lack of desire could come from comparing
yourself to other perfect people in the media spotlight which is an unachievable target, we live in a
world where pretty people sell however they are not the reality. Looking at pornography material
where the majority of porn stars have had breast implants and large sized penises and girth. Illness
could be an affect for example having cancer and weight loss and even the removal of bodily parts
can leave you feeling with extremely low self-esteem. Pregnancy can leave a women feeling low on
body confidence, your body in pregnancy changes considerably, it stretches your stomach leaving
some mothers with stretch marks as well as changes to the vagina which can make women feel
undesirable and concerned how there partner will perceive their new body. There are lots of other
causes; grieving for a loved one, accidents, household stress and money worries. All stresses and
strains can leave us feeling unattractive, unappealing and repelling; we end up spending our time
worrying about all our problems and not thinking how we can do small things to make ourselves feel
cherished and adored. Women can often be worrying about what they are looking like at from a
certain angle and not concentrating on feeling comfortable in the moment. This may lead them to
struggle to orgasm and not enjoy the occasion causing tension between your relationships.
Although there are lots reason why you are feeling so low in confidence there are also some good
ideas to try to aid self-esteem. If you know your partner is feeling uncomfortable and lacking
confidence try to remain understanding and consider the reason why your loved one feels the way
they do, try to reassure them. They are not alone, a lot of people suffer from low self-esteem even
those pretty people in the media. Never assume that they know your thoughts, they don’t!! If you have
something you want to talk about, make time to discuss it even if you both feel awkward, you will
never overcome it without discussing it. If your partner has issues on their body image, compliment
them, make them feel special about themselves. Focus on the parts you love about them and let them
know why you love those parts. You are the one person who your partner needs feel bold in front of.
Let her know how much you crave them and they turn you on. Little steps can start to reassure her on
how enjoyable the whole process can be.
If you are a women feeling low on self-esteem why not consider buying something new which covers
up the parts you feel most self-conscious about. If you worry about your breast looking saggy
purchase an uplifting corset giving you an instant sucked-in, uplifting shape, or if you feel
uncomfortable being laced in by a corset why not dress up in a flowing easy baby doll. Take the time
to do yourself up, put on some of your favorite lippy and even wear those sexy shoes (which don’t
always go out very often) make yourself feel sexy. Consider spending time building tension between
you both, this can be as simple as sending each other some random sexy text throughout the day,
wearing a top you know exposes your best asset throughout the day. You will feel wanted and excited
before you even get into the bedroom (if you get to the bedroom). What about a totally different
approach in pretending to be different people, a bit of a role play and if you’re playing a different
person you may feel inspired to be that person and get carried away and only lead to a new
experience. Try and laugh about things together it will make you both feel more at ease there’s
nothing sexier than a women who can giggle its instantly attractive and irresistible. The more
confident you feel the more adventurous you will both become.
Lacking in self-esteem can seem like a big deal, although the solutions aren’t instant and if you can
both spend time working hard on it you can have a happy healthy intimate relationship which others
can be jealous of. The more you try new things the more spontaneous you will both become having a
trust which aids your personal relationship too.
If you have any tricks you have tried that has helped your intimate relationship with confidence issue,
please let us know, we would love to hear from you.
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